A fundamental afraidness that can come from a number of different kinds of sources – e.g., for me, stuttering and family traumas and adolescent confusion and angst – and in many cases can be understandable and indeed appropriate and justifiable, given the particular situations – while, too, in many cases, the fear lives on as a foundational force far longer than is necessary or is good for you
And the same us true of a lot of my defenses, and desires, and pleasures, and obligations
Steven Pavlos Holmes, Ph.D. 